When words aren't enough....

All I can tell you is really just this.....The easiest way to overcome a struggle is to simply line it up with the word of God. If it isn't in line with the word of God, then you'll know how best to handle anything that comes your way. I've always said, "You may not know what TO do but you almost always know what NOT to do."

The thing is, when you struggle with anger....to remember that your anger isn't hurting the other person. Only you.....and kids, if they end up in the middle. It definitely hurts kids. And they will remember every single time a harsh word was spoken about the other parent. Every single time. It'll pierce them. And eventually, your anger will break them. And then they will struggle with living God's will for their life because your anger and bitterness has left them so broken - instead of spending time loving and displaying Christ - they'll spend so much time in reconstruction mode...

And what happens with the harsh words? Well, here's the deal.....when you speak harshly about another parent - you're speaking out of anger (usually from the past)....thing is, that other parent may really be a different person. And, they truly may not be speaking harshly about you. The kids see both sides while the parents only see one. So, in my opinion, speaking harshly about the other parent kind of shoots yourself in the foot, where your relationship with your kids is concerned at least.

Just don't do it. Just stop being angry and sincerely choose peace. Choose what is best for the KIDS not what is best for you. Releasing those chains of anger will change you life. And that is for sure.